Ruth Roche, Baroness Fermoy

Ruth Sylvia Roche, Baroness Fermoy, DCVO, OBE (née Gill; 2 October 1908 – 6 July 1993) was a friend and confidante of Queen Elizabeth The Queen Mother and the maternal grandmother of Diana, Princess of Wales. She was one of the Queen Mother's ladies-in-waiting.

The Right Honourable The Lady Fermoy DCVO OBE
Born	Ruth Sylvia Gill (1908-10-02)2 October 1908 Bieldside, Aberdeenshire, Scotland
Died	6 July 1993(1993-07-06) (aged 84) Belgravia, London, England
Nationality	British
Education	Paris Conservatoire
Occupation	Woman of the Bedchamber to Queen Elizabeth The Queen Mother
Known for	Maternal grandmother of Diana, Princess of Wales
Spouse	Maurice Roche, 4th Baron Fermoy ​ ​ (m. 1931; died 1955)​
Children	Mary Cynthia Roche Frances Shand Kydd Edmund Roche, 5th Baron Fermoy
Parents	William Smith Gill Ruth Littlejohn
Relatives	Diana, Princess of Wales (granddaughter)

Biography

Lady Fermoy was born Ruth Sylvia Gill at Dalhebity House, Bieldside, Aberdeenshire, the daughter of Colonel William Smith Gill and his wife, Ruth (née Littlejohn, daughter of David Littlejohn, DL).^[1] She showed early promise as a pianist and studied under Alfred Cortot at the Paris Conservatoire in the 1920s.^[2]

Her musical career was cut short when she met the wealthy and much older Maurice Roche, 4th Baron Fermoy. They married on 17 September 1931 at St. Devenick's Church in Bieldside, Aberdeenshire. Lord and Lady Fermoy had three children, including Frances, who would become the mother of Diana, Princess of Wales.

Lady Fermoy did play the piano in public occasionally after her marriage, most notably with Josef Krips at the Royal Albert Hall in 1950, and with Sir John Barbirolli and the Hallé Orchestra at King's Lynn in 1966.^[3] She founded the King's Lynn Festival in 1951 and remained closely involved with the Festival for 25 years, persuading Queen Elizabeth The Queen Mother to become its patron.^[4] She was appointed an Officer of the Order of the British Empire (OBE) in January 1952 for her services as Chairman of the King's Lynn Arts Festival Society.^[5]

In 1956, the Queen Mother appointed Lady Fermoy an Extra Woman of the Bedchamber. The Queen Mother, being a widow herself, showed a preference for appointing widows to her household, and four years later Lady Fermoy was promoted to Woman of the Bedchamber, a post she held for the next 33 years.^[6] She was appointed a Commander of the Royal Victorian Order in June 1966,^[7] and a Dame Commander of the Royal Victorian Order in June 1979.^[8]

Lady Fermoy was a firm believer in the sanctity of marriage. In 1969, her daughter Frances and John Spencer, Viscount Althorp, divorced after Frances left her husband for Peter Shand Kydd. Lady Fermoy testified against her daughter, which allowed Viscount Althorp to retain custody of their children.^[2]

The Queen Mother and Lady Fermoy became confidantes, and it was assumed by many that the two women engineered the match between their grandchildren, Charles, Prince of Wales and Lady Diana Spencer. However, when asked about it, Lady Fermoy remarked: "You can say that if you like – but it simply wouldn't be true".^[9] She was also said to have counselled her granddaughter against the marriage, saying: "Darling, you must understand that their sense of humour and their lifestyle are different, and I don't think it will suit you."^[10]

Lady Fermoy died at her home at 36 Eaton Square, London, on 6 July 1993,^[11] aged 84.^[12] It was reported that she was not on speaking terms with Diana when she died.^[2]

Ancestry

Lady Fermoy's great-grandmother, Kitty Forbes, was the daughter of Eliza Kewark. Eliza's father, Hakob Kevork or Kevorkian, was Armenian; her Indian mother was probably Muslim.^[13] She is variously described in contemporary documents as "a dark-skinned native woman" and "an Armenian woman from Bombay".^{[1][14][15][16]}

Popular culture

Lady Fermoy was portrayed by Georgie Glen in the fourth season of The Crown.

References

1. Williamson, David, The Ancestry of Lady Diana Spencer In: Genealogist’s Magazine, 1981; vol. 20 (no. 6) pp. 192–199 and vol. 20 (no. 8) pp. 281–282
2. The Times (London), Thursday, 8 July 1993; p. 4 col. D and p. 19 col. A
3. Vickers, Hugo (2006). Elizabeth: The Queen Mother. Arrow Books/Random House. p. 337. ISBN 978-0-09-947662-7.
4. History of the King's Lynn Festival Archived 18 May 2011 at the Wayback Machine
5. "No. 39421". The London Gazette (Supplement). 28 December 1951. p. 13.
6. Mosley, C (ed.) Burke's Peerage, Baronetage and Knightage, 107th edition (Burke's Peerage and Gentry LLC, 2004) vol. I p. 1414
7. "No. 44004". The London Gazette (Supplement). 3 June 1966. p. 6533.
8. "No. 47869". The London Gazette (Supplement). 15 June 1979. p. 3.
9. The Associated Press, 7 July 1993
10. Morton, Andrew, Diana: Her True Story (BCA, 1992) p. 55
11. Who's Who, 1980 (Adam and Charles Black, London) p. 837
12. "The Dowager Lady Fermoy; Diana's Grandmother, 84". The New York Times. 8 July 1993. Retrieved 9 June 2013.
13. "On the elusive trail of Eliza Kewark". The Telegraph (Calcutta). 21 June 2013. Retrieved 20 January 2014.
14. Brown, David (14 June 2013). "Revealed: the Indian ancestry of William". The Times. p. 1.
15. Sinha, Kounteya (16 June 2013). "Hunt on for Prince William's distant cousins in Surat". The Times of India. Archived from the original on 19 March 2015. Retrieved 11 August 2013.
16. Hern, Alex (14 June 2013). "Are there ethical lapses in the Times' story on William's 'Indian ancestry'?". New Statesman. Archived from the original on 20 August 2013. Retrieved 11 August 2013. Although Eliza Kewark was indeed thought of as Armenian, it's not particularly surprising that she would have had Indian ancestors; the Armenian diaspora had been in India for centuries at the time of her birth, and even the most insular communities tend to experience genetic mixing over in that timescale.