Charm appertains to the essence of the person or thing endowed with it. It cannot be acquired, it cannot be got rid of, and its results are produced without effort, since the person who has it cannot help producing them.
Alfred Austin, The Garden That I Love: Second Series (London: Macmillan and Co., 1907), pp. 32–33.
Women are more frequently charming than men, because they are less self-conscious.
Alfred Austin, The Garden That I Love: Second Series (London: Macmillan and Co., 1907), p. 35.
Oh, it's — it's a sort of bloom on a woman. If you have it, you don't need to have anything else; and if you don't have it, it doesn't much matter what else you have. Some women, the few, have charm for all; and most have charm for one. But some have charm for none.
The true spirit of conversation consists more in bringing out the cleverness of others than in showing a great deal of it yourself; he who goes away pleased with himself and his own wit is also greatly pleased with you. Most men would rather please than admire you; they seek less to be instructed, and even to be amused, than to be praised and applauded; the most delicate of pleasures is to please another person.
Jean de La Bruyère, Characters, H. Van Laun, trans. (London: 1885) “Of Society and Conversation,” #16
"Charm"—which means the power to effect work without employing brute force—is indispensable to women. Charm is a woman's strength just as strength is a man's charm.
How amiable and innocent Her pleasure in her power to charm!
Coventry Patmore, The Angel in the House (1854), Book I, Canto IV, I "The Rose of the World"
But Time's stern tide, with cold Oblivion's wave, Shall soon dissolve each fair, each fading charm.
Anna Seward, "Elegy Written at the Sea-Side", in Poetical Works, ed. Walter Scott, Vol. I (Edinburgh: John Ballantyne and Co., 1810), p. 82
Pray present my benediction to your charming wife, who I am sure would bring any plant in the garden into full flower by looking at it, and smiling upon it.
Sydney Smith, letter to Lord Mahon (July 4, 1843), in A Memoir of the Reverend Sydney Smith by his daughter Lady Holland, with a selection of his letters edited by Mrs. Austin (London: Longman, Brown, Green, and Longmans, 1855), Vol. II, p. 491
Men are constantly attracted and deluded by two opposite charms: the charm of competence which is engendered by mathematics and everything akin to mathematics, and the charm of humble awe, which is engendered by meditation on the human soul and its experiences. Philosophy is characterized by the gentle, if firm, refusal to succumb to either charm. It is the highest form of the mating of courage and moderation. In spite of its highness or nobility, it could appear as Sisyphean or ugly, when one contrasts its achievement with its goal. Yet it is necessarily accompanied, sustained and elevated by eros. It is graced by nature's grace.
Leo Strauss, What is Political Philosophy, p. 40 (1959)
All charming people, I fancy, are spoiled. It is the secret of their attraction.