January 1904, in Paris, Oberndorff married Marguerite deStuers, daughter of Alphonse Lambert deStuers, the Dutch ambassador to France, and of his former
Vincent Henri Antoine deStuers (29 November 1792 – 29 December 1881) was a Dutch general, commander of the Indies army. DeStuers grew up in 's-Heerenberg
prominent Astor family. She had been Madame deStuers before her divorce from Alphonse Lambert Eugène, Chevalier deStuers (1841–1919). In 1880, she had married
prominent Astor family. She had been Madame deStuers before her divorce from Alphonse Lambert Eugène, Chevalier deStuers [nl] (1841–1919). They were the parents
, who moved to Sioux Falls to obtain a divorce from Alphonse Lambert Eugène, Chevalier deStuers [nl] and would later marry Elliott Zborowski; Mary Nevins