The article fails to explain why it is so common, and what enables the perpetrators to facilitate and get away with their behavior. One factor must be that many parents simply don't care about their kids, and hence don't stop their sons / daughters from being targeted by controlling abusers - there are many parents who are so uncaring and preoccupied with selfish / trivial crap that they don't even notice what is happening to their own child. There must be victims of both genders and all orientations. Do the perpetrators target victims who are younger, weaker, poorer, of lower status than them? Are previously abused teens more vulnerable to being abused in such a way? F W Nietzsche (talk) 06:34, 1 January 2009 (UTC)
While you raise some interesting questions, you unfortunately also make a blanket statement that is at best unsupported, and likely to be offensive to many.
"One factor must be that many parents simply don't care about their kids, and hence don't stop their sons / daughters from being targeted by controlling abusers - there are many parents who are so uncaring and preoccupied with selfish / trivial crap that they don't even notice what is happening to their own child."
In essence you lay blame at the feet of the parents of the victims while common sense dictates that it's instead the parents of the abusers that likely guided (through omission or commission) the actions resulting in abuse. Why fault victims rather than perpetrators? I find this to be both unsettling and counterproductive.
131.96.187.18 (talk) 22:52, 26 January 2009 (UTC)
This is original research, so I can't cite it in the article, but maybe someday I'll do a scientific study on this, and then one of you can cite it in the article. When I was a teenager, the only reason that girls ever gave for rejecting me was to say, "You're a nice guy." Then these girls would have long term relationships with guys who treated them badly, and they would tell me all about it. "I've been dating him for six months now. He's such a jerk. He's so mean to me. I wish he was nice to me like you are." Girls like to date guys who are mean to them. They say they want a nice guy, but their actions show they are lying. This is how the world ends up with 40 year old virgins, which I will be in two years. Grundle2600 (talk) 21:56, 5 June 2009 (UTC)